But: It’s a word that changes sentences, intentions and even actions. It controls us and most of us don’t even realize it. “I want to lose weight and get in shape, BUT…” “I want to start working on that business idea , BUT…” “I want to ask that girl out , BUT…” ” i want to start writing that book, BUT…” It doesn’t matter what comes after “but” all that matters is that it stops you from accomplishing something.
If you really wanted to get in shape or you really want to start working on that idea you have or you really want to ask that girl out or start working on that book, then you should freaking do it! Excuses are our brain’s way of giving us an easy out; they make giving up acceptable.
Now is the time to avoid the word “but.” Here are 8 reasons why:
1. Excuses hold you back.
Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophecies? That’s what happens when you make excuses. You think you can’t do something, so you can’t. When you make an excuse, you admit that something is stronger than your will to move forward. You miss out on opportunities to better yourself, your life and your world.
2. They’re probably bullsh*t anyway.
We like to use bullsh*t excuses because they’re easier to accept than our own faults and failures. Obviously, there are circumstances we can’t change and some excuses are legitimate, but probably only about 20 percent of them. Instead of using the sh*tty things that happen to you in life as excuses, use them as motivation and reasons to improve.
3. Excuses mess with your self-esteem.
Continuously telling yourself why you can’t do things will starve your self-esteem. When your excuses prevent you from reaching any and all goals, what will your self-esteem subsist upon?
4. Excuses are a waste of our energy.
Imagine if you could apply the time you spend convincing yourself not to do something to actually doing it. Experts have identified worrying as something that consumes a lot of energy, so conserve that energy, stop worrying about why you can’t do something and just go do it!
5. You don’t gain anything.
Excuses do nothing positive for you; they don’t make you feel better about yourself, lead you anywhere, teach you lessons or get you want you want.
6. Excuses are too easy.
You never hear about the people who took the easy way out. Rather, you hear about people who work hard, push forward and never let anything or anyone (even themselves) get in their way.
7. They hide who you really are.
Making excuses stops you from reaching your full potential. Excuses are often just lies disguised as reasons; they give you something to hide behind and something else to blame other than yourself.
8. They weaken us.
As soon as you use the word “but,” you’re losing control, control to accomplish what you want. You’re handing the power over to whatever your excuse is, whether it’s your age, what other people say about you, your fears, uncertainty or just pure laziness.Be in charge of your own life and don’t let excuses like these stop you from reaching your goals. Next time you think about making an excuse, ask yourself whether your excuse or your goal is more important. We are all capable of extraordinary things; it’s just a matter of whether or not we’re willing to take the time and make the effort.
It’s time to avoid the word “but” in your life. If you really want something, you’ll find a way. It may not be easy and it may not be fun, but what really matters is if in the end, it was worth it.
So, stop making excuses and invest in yourself. You ARE worth it.
I decided to stop making silly excuses this year and my life has been amazing. Please do not read this as another motivational article but actually put it into practice.