Truth is most of us fails when it comes to sticking to resolutions, so much so that many people swear never to make resolutions again. We are always hopeful when the New Year comes around, that we can improve our lives with each New Year that change is possible I’m here to tell you that you can do it. It’s possible. But change can’t be achieved without determination and discipline
Faith without work is dead!
While I love the optimism of New Year’s Resolutions, unfortunately, the enthusiasm and hope often fades within weeks, and our efforts at self-improvement come to a whimpering end.
New Year’s Resolutions usually fail because of some of these major reasons:
Too many resolutions: We try to do too many resolutions at once, and that spreads our focus and energies too thin. It’s much less effective to do many habits at once. We only have a certain amount of enthusiasm and motivation, and it runs out because we try to do too much, too soon. We spend all that energy in the beginning and then run out of steam. The fewer things your brain has to deal with, the better and you’ll be able to focus all your motivation on one resolution, increasing the chances you’ll succeed.
Getting rid of bad habit too soon: We try to do really tough habits right away, which means it’s difficult and we become overwhelmed or intimidated by the difficulty and quit. Habits cannot be killed off. It’s like the old saying that you never forget how to ride a bike. Old habits are lying there in the back of your mind waiting to be cued off by familiar situations. It’s much better to plan a new good habit to replace the bad old one. Try to learn a new response to a familiar old cue.
Resolutions are often vague: I’m going to exercise, but with no concrete plan or goal. That’s a recipe for failure.
We adopt someone else’s resolutions, not ours
There are other reasons, but the ones above are easily sufficient to stop resolutions from succeeding.
So how so we make 2014 resolution work
Set Specific Goals: New Year’s resolutions are often big and general, making them hard to attain. The more specific you can be, the easier it will be to reach that goal. “Lose weight” or “get in shape” is a bad resolution; “Lose 20kg by March” is a good one. Setting multiple specific goals throughout the year is good, too. That way, you always have something attainable to focus on that doesn’t seem far
Give Yourself a Trial Run: Not every resolution is perfect out of the gate, so don’t hold yourself to a poorly-formed goal if it just won’t work. Give yourself a 30-day trial run to work out the kinks, where you can let yourself stumble a bit and tweak your goals to something better suited for success. Keep in mind that not all habits are formed in 21 days, as conventional wisdom says, so even after the trial run; give yourself time to sink into the habit before you start admitting defeat
Plan: Write each resolution or goal down under its category and stick it somewhere you’ll see every day. I’d recommend you choose a realistic number having 120 major goals will probably just leave you disappointed. Under each goal make a plan so if your goal is to get fit this year, how will you do it? Make a checklist. Make sure it’s realistic, and easy to track. Give yourself a deadline.
For big results, think small: The classic mistake people make when choosing their New Year’s resolutions is to bite off more than they can chew. Even with the help of psychologists, people find it hard to make relatively modest changes. So pick something you have a reasonable chance of achieving. You can always run the process again for another habit once the first is running smoothly.
Repeat: Habits build up by repeating the same action in the same situation. Each time you repeat it, the habit gets stronger. The stronger it gets, the more likely you are to perform it without having to consciously will it.
Tweak: Everyone is different, so what works for one person might not work for another. Habit change is no different. If your very specific plan seems to be going wrong after a while, or doesn’t feel right, then it may need a tweak. Try a different time of the day or performing the habit in a different way.
Forget about waking up tomorrow a totally different person. Instead go little-by-little, step-by-step, and eventually you will get there.